With Betsy Arizu and Misti Oxford-Pickeral

Dates
August 7 - 10
Registration Deadline:  July 9
Suitability

This retreat is especially designed for the summer session of the year-long Deconstructing the Myth of Self Intensive that began in March. However, it is also open and appropriate to any FCM members that have taken this Intensive in previous years or have participated in a previous FCM Deconstructing the Myth of Self Retreat.

Description

In Buddhism, the knots of self is a metaphor that describes the layers of memories, thoughts, feelings and behavioral patterns that created our sense of self as being solid, permanent and fixed. These knots of self, “tied” during our early years, are reinforced over the course of our adult lives. They hold the stories, dramas, and misperceptions we may have about ourselves and the world, as well as our immature life strategies to make self feel real, safe and in control.

These knots of self hold our mistaken identities -- I’m an anxious person or an angry person; I am flawed or not worthy; or I am unlovable or an imposter. These limiting beliefs, afflictive emotions and patterns of reactivity cause us suffering in life, limit our potential, and keep us from fully realizing who we really are.

Untangling the Knots of Self is a 3-Day Summer retreat and its objectives are to:

• Identify and bring awareness to the knots of self (our core schemas) that feed and reinforce our emotional suffering
• Better understand their construction, triggers, and recurring patterns, and learn to challenge our self-limiting beliefs
• Bring awareness and compassion to the wounded parts of ourself that long for understanding, healing and freedom
• Loosen our identification with the process of the conditioned self and begin to open to greater ease and spaciousness in our daily lives.

Retreat is an opportunity to step away from our daily lives and enter a nurturing and silent oasis of mindfulness, meditation, and transformative teachings and practices. Silence affords us the opportunity to deepen our meditative experience while absorbing the experiential meaning of the teachings and practices presented.

This retreat will be led by Betsy Arizu and Misti Oxford-Pickeral who have been working this year with Fred Eppsteiner, the creator of the year-long Intensive, Deconstructing the Myth of Self. The retreat will include mindfulness practices, guided meditation, self-reflection, journal exercises, and inner dialogue with parts of ourself to nurture greater understanding, insight, and healing. The retreat is for those currently in the Deconstructing the Myth of Self Intensive, have participated in a past FCM Deconstructing the Myth of Self Intensives or Retreat, or are experienced Dharma meditators/practitioners with some experience within this area of study and practice. If you have any questions about the retreat or whether it is right for you contact Betsy Arizu at betsyarizu@gmail.com.

Retreat Leaders

Betsy Arizu is an FCM Dharma Instructor. She co-led the Deconstructing the Myth of Self Intensive and Untangling the Knots of Self Retreat with Ken Lenington in 2021. She has been a member of the Florida Community of Mindfulness and a student of Fred Eppsteiner since 2011, participated in the three-year Dharma Transmission Program, and was ordained as a member of the Order of Interbeing in 2015. Her background is in counseling, mindfulness in education, art and organization development. She currently resides in Raleigh, NC, leading Open Circle Mindfulness in Raleigh and various programs for Florida Community of Mindfulness.

Misti Oxford-Pickeral was introduced to Buddhism in her 20s through the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, and the Dali Lama. She became a member of FCM in 2016. Having experienced profound changes in her life through Buddhist teachings and practices, Misti is grateful to serve the FCM community and support others' practices. She is active with FCM's kitchen team and with the Community Care Team, and she participates as a new member mentor. She is excited to apply her experience with and passion for teaching to the Dharma. Misti currently serves on FCM's Board of Directors. She lives in Gainesville, FL with her husband.

Fees

The fee for in-person participation is $270 for overnighters and $210 for commuters.

Retreat Logistics

This retreat is in-person only (either staying overnight or as a commuter) participation at FCM’s Tampa Center. The retreat will begin with orientation at 5:00 pm on Thursday, August 7 and ends Sunday, August 10 at 12:00 pm. Participation is open to FCM members only.

If you are not familiar with our campus, you may enjoy this short video tour.

Please note: 

• The deadline for registration for this retreat is July 9. 
• We will send a retreat acceptance letter by July 14 with additional information to help you prepare for retreat.
• The full fee will then be due by July 18, otherwise the spot will be given to another applicant.
• Please click here to read FCM's Retreat Cancellation Policy.

Retreat Scholarships are available; please click here to see FCM’s Retreat Scholarship Policy and for an Application, which needs to be submitted prior to the registration deadline for this retreat.

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The teachings are offered in the Buddhist tradition of Dana, wherein the teachers freely give of themselves to the students out of gratitude for what they’ve received from their teachers and a desire to be of service. The student’s response is also based on Dana, i.e. generosity that naturally flows from a sense of appreciation of the value of Dharma and gratitude to the living lineage. All retreat dana for this retreat will go towards supporting future programs at the FCM center. 

Questions?
Please contact Rita at ritaanna727@gmail.com for any logistical questions.